I’m actually seriously fucking sick and tired of seeing all the hate Carver gets
He’s 18 when the game starts. Eighteen. He’s still a kid - a kid who’s fought in the war, a kid who has always been second to his older sibling, and a kid who has just watched his twin sister die before his eyes. Bethany has a naturally sunny disposition, so when you play with her, she takes all these things with a positive spin. But put yourself in Carver’s shoes for once.
Always second favourite. His twin and older sibling are both mages, and so clearly their father dotes on them while Carver is cast off to the side. It’s not intentionally done to make him feel bad, but how do you expect him to feel about it? Happy? He’s never good enough. Couple that with the fact that he practically resides in Hawke’s shadow and you’ve got the recipe for a childhood spent in solitude.
Hawke is perfect, talented, skilled, charming, flawless. Bethany is sweet and adorable. And Carver is just…Carver.
You even hear it in Leandra’s voice when she talks to the family in Act I. “Listen to your sister/brother.” Carver’s opinion is essentially invalidated. Again, Bethany and Carver are different people. Bethany’s naturally sweet, naturally a little softer, able to take this better. That and she’s always had that slight edge of favoritism, being a mage, taking after their father.
Again, Carver has never had any reason to believe he’s special. Up until his quest in Act I, he didn’t even know his father really cared about him at all.
All he wants to do is carve his own path. All he wants to do is be his own person. And he’s frustrated, frustrated with the fact that he works just as hard as Hawke and doesn’t get the recognition - think Varric not knowing near anything about Carver when they first meet, essentially saying "meh, he can come if he wants, it’s you that matters.”
I’ll say this again - Carver Hawke is a kid. He’s insecure, unsure, stuck in a life where he’s never, ever going to be good enough. He even says it to Hawke in Act I, that the reason he’s so angry is because he feels he doesn’t have a place in his family anymore. It’s fucking heartbreaking. So when I see people get on Carver for being a bit grumpy, I think of my own experiences as a second child, as the less funny, less charming, less smart, essentially less everything one, and my heart breaks.
Essentially, Carver is a sad, scared, lonely boy who we first meet at 18, an incredibly vulnerable and hard age, and he must be protected at all costs.
So, I was in the car today and saw someone with the license plate “X0DUS3 5”, so I thought it was like Exodus 3:5 and I looked it up, and do you know what it said?
"Do not come any closer"
do you ever just discover a new band
and you listen to their song
and you can tell straight away
and you just sit there in complete silence as your entire soul shifts and your entire being begins to beat intune to the sudden new music and your entire world opens up to all the new emotions that you’re going to discover jjust by listning to another humans voice